A LOOK AT
ORIGINALLY PRINTED IN 1983 BEFORE THE WORLD NEW OF THE ROYAL COUPLES TROUBLES
by Ramona Richards
"Opposites attract and then repel" is a familiar theme heard by marriage counselors. This refrain could easily be modified. to "opposites attract and then can learn to' understand and support each other". The big word here is learn.
When choosing a new car, most buyers take the time to read the owners' manual for valuable information on how to receive the best from their investment. Our investment in time, energy, money and certainly emotion is accelerated a thousand times when we establish a serious relationship. braving our ignorance of the unknown. We usually are totally unaware of the inherent genetic differences of our partner's structure.
Difference in design affects performance and we are' as structurally different as any brand X produced by the automotive industry. Magazines provide us with the tiniest details of the leading autos' mechanical differences and yet, we remain painfully uneducated about our own vehicles. Examining only one facial trait between Princess Diana and Prince Charles can bring understanding to an area of possible' emotional conflict between this very differently structured couple.
Have-you ever had a misunderstanding with your partner about getting some place on time or felt that their swift, intense reaction to a situation was blown way out of proportion?
If you and your partner are structured as differently between the eyes as Prince Charles and .Princess Di, this could be the origin or an on-going source of emotional upset.
Prince Charles has very close spacing between the eyes which gives him an immediate and quick; emotional response to conditions in his environment. He' is strict and disciplined with himself, conscientious regarding time, schedules and commitments and expects the same of others. Tardiness, confusion and sloppy workmanship are instantly and deeply upsetting to him.
Because the spacing between his eyes is unusually close, almost everyone he meets will have a slower sense of timing. This requires a lifetime of conscious adjustment on his part to prevent a state of chronic stress that would drain his creative energy.
Princess Diana perceives time and space quite differently. Her eyes are wider set and her perspective is larger. Under normal conditions, her response to life is good natured and she has a relaxed attitude about time and schedules. Setting and meeting deadlines is not a natural priority for her. The disciplined demands of a royal lifestyle require constant conscious awareness for her to tighten her innate easy-going tendency to procrastinate and live for tomorrow.
Couples that are structural opposites in the spacing between the eyes often form a pattern of habitual bickering about perspectives and priorities. She can feel constantly criticized, off balance and made wrong about things she views as molehills made mountain size. He can feel tense, irritated and disappointed that agreements about time and self discipline are continually broken.
When a couple understands that these are strudural differences and not just willful lack of cooperation or insensitivity to feelings, these opposite traits can compliment and support each other. Each can help balance out the other.
The partner with the wider spacing between the eyes is better at seeing the bigger picture and is more patient in handling people situations where there is prolonged upset or confusion. The wide-set-eyed person will benefit from getting unpleasant or boring tasks over with quickly, setting deadlines and sticking to them, allowing enough time to be on time and by being thoughtful of their partner's threshold of jealousy.
The partner with closer set eyes can exercise their faster timing mechanism in any area that requires immediate action or fine craftsmanship. The close-set eyed person benefits from being less critical of others and applying perfectionist tendencies only to self and by cultivating patience about wanting things done "right now!" These opposite polarities can be extremely helpful to each: other in business and in everyday living if each will honor the' other's strong points.
This is just one trait out of a possible sixty that can be compared between couples. If you'd like to place yourself on a scale of close, medium, or wide-set eyes, just measure your eye aperture from the inner to outer corners with your thumb and forefinger. If the space between your eyes is less than one aperture, your eyes are close-set. If the space is the same as the width of your eye aperture, then your eyes are in balance. If the space is more than one eye width, then you're going toward a wide-eyed point of view.
For those of you who are balanced, there is an interesting manifestation to watch for. To the wide-set-eyed person you will seem to have the characteristics of a close-set-eyed person, and the close-set-eyed individual will view you as having the wide-set-eyed traits. To be in the middle is to experience both opposites through the projected reaction of others.
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